Trumps Anger – Is it justified?

Candace B. Pert in her book “Molecules of Emotion (Why You Feel the Way You Feel) explains how emotions are just chemistry.

Are feelings and emotions the same thing? The words are interchangable.

Feelings are basically either  negative or positive. Feelings are either useful or not useful, positive or negative and either skills or blocks. It is important to remind one’s self that when you are feeling any negative emotion that you are experiencing the effects of a chemistry going through your body, and if that chemistry is negative, it is having a negative effect on your body – it is a poison.

Most people want to feel the positive emotions and feel like a bad person if they are spewing negativity so they usually have to justify it with blame. Trump is saying now that he is justified for his angry outbursts because he has been wronged. Do you think he has been wronged? Does he look like he is telling the truth to you? Does truth matter to you? Can you take on his anger and be angry with him. Where would you like to go with that anger?  I think generally we want change. what kind of change are you looking for? Have you been wronged and can identify with Trump. Is it that you want a less corrupt government? Do we need a corrupt person or a person with integrity to give us better government? How does this really work?

Anger, blame, and revenge are probably the only feelings that seem to have what feels like a positive driving feeling when you are feeling them. Being “right” feels good. It is like a reward. Blame is a behavior to excuse yourself for feeling anger because we all need to justify negativity. With most negative feelings, the energy is settled into the body that feels them it really hurts the body but these explosive emotions, even though they are poison, also blow out to other people and when shared spread the poison to others. Showing anger is a way for a person to try to put that energy away from their body on to someone else or the idea of sharing it with others and the purpose is meant to push that energy away from you so others take it on. There is some unconscious idea that giving it away takes it from you but it really just magnifies it. I believe anger is a cancer and when suppressed definitely cases cancer and when let out gives/shares it to others. Angry people give other people cancer around them and eventually it also gets them. As a metaphor it is a cancer in our society right now. Anger eats a person up and will get them in the end.

One of the things to know is that negative feelings block good information. When you are caught in being angry, can you ever see the other side? Any time it is about taking sides, it is not about truth, it is about power. Whenever you see anger or feel anger you are feeling and seeing bad chemistry and there is always something to learn. So how can we learn from watching this angry show between both sides in our country right now?

Another situation presented itself to me today. I went in to see my daughter and she had been kept up not getting enough sleep (justification for her anger) because a previous boyfriend called he all night about his drama, and what he was angry about, which made her easily get angry and have no patience.

So knowing more about the situation and not wanting to keep this movie in my mind, at first, I called her out on her anger. That stopped her and stopped the toxic energy from coming my way. But then in reflection I realized by suppressing her anger, it can hurt her physically. I have the skills to see her as a 2 ft toddler having a tantrum which blocks the emotion from hurting me. So I gave her permission to let out her anger. And then she felt bad, saying,  “I am a bad person.” She felt like a bad person because taking your anger out on others makes you a bad person, generally thought so in the world, except in Trump’s case. Unless you can really justify it.

What makes someone a bad person? Good people do bad things. But mistakes are just something to learn from. A mistake doesn’t make you a bad person. But in the X system world, you can’t admit a mistake because mistakes are sins. So if Trump doesn’t admit he has made a mistake, he can constantly justify his anger for being called out on his mistakes since they would have to be wrong from the point of view he is locked into. He has some idea he is above the law. If he can be vindicated, he didn’t really make a mistake? It becomes a big fight to determine who made the mistake even though everyone already knows what really is the truth. Is the mistake that he did it in the first place, or is the mistake calling attention to his mistake, the mistake?

Se, let’s see what we can do to change the energy effects of this situation. First, picture Trump only about 2 ft tall and what he would look like if he was a toddler getting caught behind the barn doing something naughty. Then all his supporters would also have to be toddlers, afraid of being spanked, also because they were complicit, so in fear they support the one in the face of punishment so that punishment doesn’t come down on them. Then they rally around the one fighting against authority so authority doesn’t see them. All the rest of those kids think they are safe from punishment as long as the front guy gets away with it. If the front guy gets punished he likely will tell on the others. So, mom and dad, knew they made a few mistakes in the past they don’t want brought up too so they might let him get away with it. They don’t want their kids to say, “You did this too!”  But a parent can say, I learned from that and I am trying to teach you so you don’t make the same mistakes. Parents have this as an out.

If the parents know that all the kids did the same things but only one was caught, should they punish them all? Do they make one an example? Or do they tell the other kids, you won’t get punished because this is a learning experience in what you shouldn’t do. That other kid egged you on, he was a bully so we are just going to punish him so you can learn from this. It also makes it OK for you to clear the air and tell us everything about how this happened and how he bullied you. You are not bad kids. He is the bad kid now because he is an influencer and a bully and his values are all mixed up and he needs to be stopped. If he had some time to sit in the corner to think about this and experience some consequences, he will be more willing to learn and think about his behavior.

Also, bullies turn around and play the victim. Victims make other people victims. So baby Trump is playing the victim for being caught at bad behavior he will eventually point the finger of all those that are complicit. Bullies only watch out for themselves and will use any means to put the blame on other to save themselves. They want to re-direct the attention so they can escape.  Is Trump a bully or is he just a really nice person acting on other’s behalf? Is he trying to save others or trying to save himself?

Life just happens. Bad things happen. We all make mistakes but that doesn’t make us bad unless we insist on not learning from those mistakes. No one tells us what we are supposed to learn or what life is about when we are small. It is easy to learn the wrong things and when we do, the process of learning later is much more severe. We are responsible for our response to life. We are responsible for learning from it. No one else is to blame. When you have not stopped a child when they are 2 from having tantrums, it gets very difficult to stop the behavior in an older person.

Life is a unique individual learning journey for each of us. None of us had the same parents or examples to look to in life. We all learn different things and end up with different skills and behaviors. We can’t judge but we can evaluate when someone has gone too far and is harmful to society. That is when the consequences are more global and someone has to be stopped like Trump and Putin. We have to prevent big consequences from affecting so many and giving permission to be cruel and corrupt. If they get away with it many will follow their example and there is no order anywhere.

Now, the justices who are calling Trump out, I want to see them coming from patience, courage, and integrity, giving correct and equal correction to the lies of the story that Trump has told. It is this correction that this is the true and honest story the way it happened so everyone can hear the real story and it is validated. That is what justice is. It is retelling the correct story and sharing the real truth about a situation with the person who spread the lies and hate getting their just reward. We punish people by going to jail or death when they have gone too far and their living example is so awful that they must be destroyed. Being destroyed by your own evil is the example that people need. If everyone in the whole world had honesty and integrity there would only be one story not multiple stories. Everyone could live and let live. There would be no cover ups. There would be nothing to cover up. But then we wouldn’t need the legal profession would we?

When I look at the anger and justification in Trump and how he holds that against such odds, it has to be coupled with rebellion. That feeling of rebellion that many of us feel, may have originally made us support Trump as he was the most rebellious person I have seen in a long time. I can relate to rebellion too, as many of you probably can, and in the beginning I saw that in Trump and knowing that there are so many unjust government situation and corrupt government I could support that initially. Rebellion looks like strength and is also courage against injustice. But we need to go back to an earlier time when we didn’t know Trump was all about getting money, he is all about using others, he is all about power over other and corrupt, and soon it will come down on all the others around him. If the system doesn’t do a correction here, Trump’s will power over everyone having no regard or anyone other then himself, he can destroy our world. We have had an example of a mega bully and time will show us how that works out.

Note: People without integrity can’t see lack of integrity in others that is why scammers get scammed.