Life with Ed 2008 – marynestlehallgren

2008 And a short story of Ed Lenca

I went out with Kirsten because she wanted to meet someone. Not me, but I met a guy named Ed

Previous to my journey and life with Mr Ed Lenca, I was a NLP trainer, developer of Emotionology and coupled that with the dental lab business. I had no idea at the time what a left turn in my life this event was for me. I had just finished my PhD comps when I met Ed.

Once I had learned NLP, and had discovered the science of Emotionology, I couldn’t see any reason to complete my degree in psychology. I had not learned anything useful in really helping people through doing the PhD courses. Psychologists get out of school to “practice” on people. I think that is not useful. The science of thinking, which I named Emotionology, helps therapists understand how to really help people with the techniques of NLP Neuro-Lingual Programming. Emotions are not rational, and people need to know just how to fix them not just dwell on them or talk about them. Talk therapy is mostly useless except for people who have the need to create drama and be validated. I think we must move beyond that. All neediness, like the need to be heard or listened to, needs to be worked on so that neediness is changed to something healthy.

These are pictures of Ed when he was young.

When Ed was 2 years old, his father beat him so badly they had to hide him for 2 weeks. Ed never forgot this. This was one thing I did help Ed with, forgiving his dad for this abuse. After that he would never work with me on his thinking although he did refer me to other people. I have a live and let live attitude, so I loved him as he was and let him be who he was.

Ed, his father (Old Ed) and Steve

The day when Ed turned 18 his father handed him a $100 bill and told him he no longer lived there. He was turned out of his home. He spent some time in California living on oranges and then decided to enlist in the Marines. He told me they were pretty much brainwashed to do whatever authority told them to do. I saw this complete yielding to authority when he got stopped by a cop and much later dealing with APS.

This is what Ed looked like when I first met him. When I met Ed in early 2008 with my friend and roommate, Kirsten. I wasn’t interested in meeting anyone but wanted to support my friend. We stopped at the biker bar on Colfax in Denver that night. I was standing with her watching everyone and turned to my right, seeing a scruffy guy with long hair, a big braid in back and bad teeth. I asked him how old he was. He looked my age, but I found out that he was 12 years younger than me. I told him, “You would look 10 years younger if you fixed your teeth.” he answered, “I can’t afford it.” I said, “I can do that for you.” Although at first, I was not at all attracted to Ed, he quickly grew on me and we fell in love. I was just trying to be kind helping others out. I am an artist, so people’s teeth are my palate if I am not doing portraits. I was a hairdresser when 20, became a ceramist in my late 20s, and always an artist. This is the original Ed I first met.

I wasn’t physically attracted to Ed by his looks. But there was something in his soul that was pulling me in. So began my journey with Ed Lenca.

This was the teen Ed out drinking with his dad ‘Old Ed’. I guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

This beginning is an overview of the start of our life together and I will continue with a complete expose’ of my life in emails. Here, Ed had a friend to introduce to friend, Kirsten, to, so we had them over for dinner. I had a hot tub in my yard that I later moved to Ed’s house, so we were all in our swimming suits. I can see potential in people, so I set to work on Ed, giving him a nice smile and cutting his long hair.

FIXING TEETH
I wasn’t thinking much of it but was getting intimately involved as I worked on fixing his teeth. The process took more than a year to finish but we fell in love and decided to have a committed common law husband and wife relationship. We started dating immediately and moved in together right after our first trip visiting his younger brother in TX. I am documenting this story as you will find out why at the end.

This is Old Ed, Ed’s father

Ed’s mom. She saved him from a rattlesnake, and I got to know her well on trips to Michigan. Before she died, she asked me to always be there for Ed. I promised I would. She died of Louie body Alzheimer’s, Louie body dementia.

Ed’s father died with a different kind of Alzheimer’s after her. Their story is included here. I became close friends with this family, and I accepted them as my family.

When I first met Ed with bad teeth and long hair, he wasn’t physically attractive but 2 weeks after I met him, he asked for an exclusive relationship, common law husband and wife and we became what I called “life partners”. He was so funny I couldn’t resist. Intuitively I knew we had a journey together but neither of us wanted to get officially married. I had been married 2 times because of kids, not love, and didn’t want to repeat that mistake. We stayed common law husband and wife.

That started our relationship and the closeness that ensued and he seemed to fall in love with me (probably because I was helping him). He always said no one else ever cared for him the way I did. I also fell in love with him and was totally committed to him but never could explain why.

Ed never showed his teeth when he smiled as they flared out in front. When I first met him, they were infected. I could see he needed dental work and since Dr Sarah owed me some money and she was expecting a child, I thought I decided to work off her bill by giving it away. Later, I also did a full mouth reconstruction on Ed’s sister at my expense.

My Background
I started as a dental ceramist in my 20s when I got my own teeth fixed and they did a terrible job. It was the 70s. I said to the dentist, “Can’t you do any better?” He said “no” so I decided to enter the field as a trainee in ceramics at Ito and Koby dental lab in Indianapolis, Ind. I had previously had a hair goods business during my first marriage in Berrien springs, MI. That business disappeared when moved to Indy and later got a divorce.

After working at the dental lab for a few months and realizing I would never get a raise I quit and started my own dental lab.

Once I learned NLP in the 80s, I kept both the dental lab and my NLP practice going off and on the rest of my life.

This is the new improved Ed teeth

FIXING TEETH

Here are comparative pictures of Ed through life. He turned into quite an attractive handsome man.

Before and After

Although I didn’t take many pictures of Ed from 2014 to 2018, I took lots of pictures of our pets and animals and what I was doing on the property. Here are a few.

2012 This is our cute little puppy, Hector.

In 2013 we started fixing up the barn to live in so we could rent out the front house for income. Ed got a job for a while in 2013 but then got laid off by the elivator company and he came down with prostrate cancer. He tried to find jobs but never worked after that. We tried to get him jobs to do with welding which he went to school for while we were together. I paid for that, as I wanted him to do something he liked doing.

Hector grew up to be addicted to play and was worthless as a watch dog. I always thought he had taken on Eds humorous side. We eventually gave him away to a family with kids.

I was very much into gardening and planting the yard. In 2013, Ed had treatment for prostate cancer.

These were 2 of our ducks in 2012. Helga the duck was our favorite and we were devastated when she died. Ed couldn’t even butcher her since we loved her so much. Ducks were a lot of work though and not worth keeping as they needed constant water to gargle in and during the winter, I would have to give them water in the freezing weather 3 times a day. That became an awful chore.

Son, Hans took some great pictures of us together before Brizzi. Our favorite dog died.

May 1 2013

2013 we tried having a goose.

Aug 2014 Sabrina and her daughter came to visit. Ed and I
took care of Una occasionally. Ed had met Sabrina in his welding classes.

This is some of our 60 chickens. I tried an egg business.

This was our front yard in 2014. It was after this that I shattered my heal working too hard in the yard, and had to go to AR to stay with my nurse daughter, Marcie to heal so I could walk. We had moved into the barn so Ed would have an income renting out the front house. That started in 2013. So, we had renters in the front, I still kept up the yard, and we blocked off the back of the property and the door between the house and garage was permanently closed so we would have the garage to come and go through to the back of the property where the barn was. We called it the barn because it was shaped like a barn, but it was our living space, although somewhat rough as I had put the kitchen and bathroom in within 2 weeks. The bathroom and kitchen were downstairs, and we slept and kept our clothes in the unfinished upstairs. I kept an egg business going with friends.

I had an egg business selling eggs for a couple of years

August 2014, after shattering my heal, the barn was hard to clean, as it was not Ed’s thing to make food or clean up anything. He wouldn’t take care of me. The place got so filthy, and I couldn’t walk. I sold all the animals on craigslist and left to stay with my nurse daughter Marcie in AR to recover. It took at least 6 months for my foot to heal. Once I was good to go, I came back in March 2015 to Denver as my renters were causing problems. The barn was too filthy for me to be in, so I camped out in a shed on my own property while trying to settle my renter problem. I ended up evicting the renter and she caused me trouble with the city, so I had to redo the whole front of my property. April 2015 the city sited me for having a fence ½ ft too high in the front of my rental house.

So, in the process of redoing the front, I had 7 tons of dirt delivered to redo the front yard. They were supposed to put it in the back but instead they dumped it on the street in front, causing a problem with the city. I was so afraid I would get a ticket that I spent one day moving all that dirt myself in extreme heat. After moving the dirt, I was having heart palpitations and couldn’t even walk across the floor. Evidently, I had damaged my heart with had a heat stroke.

My sone Hans came from Calif to help me finish and get the house re-rented so I could come with him back to CA to recover. He wanted to learn the dental business so he could be self-employed, and I thought it would only take me a few months to teach him and would not be hard work. I slowly recovered after many heart doctors. What I thought would be just a couple months in California, turned into about 2 years with me driving back and forth from California to Denver to manage both my and Ed’s properties. I bought this car just to make the trips. I spent much of my time writing books during this time.

The barn was so filthy and impossible to clean by then, so I would hang out in my little shed whenever I was in Denver which we called the tiny cottage,
on my property while it was rented out. I would just visit Ed and do whatever catch up I needed to do during this time.

This was my tiny cottage next to my rental house. The guy renting my house gave me permission to stay here whenever I choose.
I also took trips to visit grandchildren in both AR and TX and friends in FL during this time.

Hans built this lab in San Diego. Turned out after teaching him this business, not only did the business change completely, since it moved to digital and dentist taking impressions to computer design milling full zirconia porcelain, it was difficult. We had to go into debt to buy all the new equipment. Once computerized and finding it hard to find good dentists in California, Hans found a job with a local milling company that would let him work from home. I was free to leave permanently back to CO in 2017 to be with Ed.

I was driving back and forth from CA to CO almost every month to see Ed and check on property.

This is May 30, 2016, on one of my trips back and forth. Ed and I at our favorite fish place. This is where we would usually go when I came home.
Here is another trip we were at the same place together. Otherwise, we had breakfast in our favorite breakfast place off Alameda. Due to the barn not being a place to be, we always went out.

I don’t remember who took these pics.

Ed having fun July 8, 2016 at Miki’s party in Denver

July 9 2016, I had started setting up the chicken place in the back yard at Eds so we just had a few chicks to take care of.
This little chicken coop is still in our back yard.

Sept 19, 2016 the barn was still very unfinished.

During the cold weather I got a few books published.

Took a trip to visit Granddaughter in TX 2017

April 23, 2017, after finally returning permanently to Colorado, Ed and I needed to come to some terms of my moving back into the house with him. His renters were gone and the only way I would move back in with him was if we moved to the front house out of the barn. I had rented an office in Littleton that made it possible for me to have a place to stay.

May 10, 2017 We had an awful hail storm in Lakewood damaging my car in Lakewood.

I had started reorganizing Ed’s back yard to clean the place up. May 22, 2017 I started buying plants again to fix up our yard.

June 3, 2017, Ed and I drove together to upper Michigan to a class reunion and took a picture of my father’s grave.

Here we are at one of the places we stopped to eat, and we did some sightseeing along the way

Ed and I finally made our future common law marriage new agreement in 2018 after we moved in together.
May 12 2017 this is my bedroom as we decided on separate beds with him smoking in his bedroom. We had made an agreement that he would not smoke in the house, but he couldn’t keep his word on that and he had difficulty sleeping so I set up my room for me. It has been a lot of work setting us up again in the house. Floors were refinished and lots of cleanup.

We were both comfortable living together for a while during this time.

My irises in the yard were beautiful.

Eds new truck.

Working again on Ed’s front yard. This is facing neighbor Jim’s place.
Jim had just bought the house.

June 7, 2018. Lots of upkeep and weeding on the front of the house but coming along good.

I set up my lab in Littleton, CO and would go back and forth to Lakewood.
Work got so busy there that many times I had to stay the night also because my car was being fixed which took several months.
I was also training someone to take over for me in the lab.

June 20, 2018 we signed our agreements, new financial and medical POA and new will. The new will

Was an agreement that Ed would never put me out and excluded his younger brother as part of the family so he wouldn’t give us trouble if anything happened to ED. We wanted to stay common law husband and wife and were still very committed in our relationship. I preferred to call it a partnership as when I work with people on their relationships, a lot of couples don’t realize that marriage is a true partnership between two people and they have to be clear about what they are partnering in. Is it the kids, or for a lifetime relationship. Ed always said that no one else treated him like I do.

I took another trip back to San Diego to help Hans move from California while Yuli was helping me in the lab.

Aug 2, 2018 had to be back for patients and gardening getting ready for winter by potting up plants I wanted to keep.

As Usual, Ed was catching squirrels in the back yard above our chicken coop.

Neighbor Jim was cutting down the tall back tree. We decided to get our trees trimmed too.

Sept 2018, one of my coaching clients paid for a trip for me and my kids to the Netherlands.
It was so fun but a little difficult for me as I was still recovering from some surgery.

Home again Sept 28, 2018. Things were going fine. I was working a lot and October 2018 took a trip paid for by my friend Rach to Albuquerque, NM

Nov. 7 2018 returning from trip, I was a little concerned to find so many bottles of beer beside Ed’s bed. I asked Keith to check in on him once in a while whenever I was away on a trip, and I started looking at the bank statements to see how much Ed was spending on alcohol. Previously, he usually just went to Cleo’s. That was his social circle.

I had surgery on Dec 5, 2018 which put me out of commission and I needed Keith to visit occasionally.

Dec 16 2018 we had all the big trees trimmed on the property and I started yard clean up.

Nov 2018 I made a light Christmas tree on the front window.

My skin was growing attached to the muscle on my face, so I had some surgery Dec 9, 2018 to fix that.
My face really swelled up but I recovered quickly staying away from Ed’s cig smoke at the lab.

Dec 29, 2018 I recovered. Here we are going out to our favorite breakfast place. Ed was letting his hair grow again.

Jan 11, 2019 Very busy with lab work in Littleton

2019, Ed and I were doing well, it seemed although I was working a lot and training new people in the lab. Since he seemed to be drinking more than usual, I signed him up with a new doctor as I was worried about him. It didn’t seem like the VA was helping him. I wanted the doctor to talk to him about his drinking.

I started fixing up the barn as my space because his cigarette smoke was causing me breathing troubles and making me sick. He had loose guns all over the place. We were talking about trying to sell the corvette and his old bike in the barn to pay property taxes. The doctor talked him into going into that detox program, but he walked out after 24 hrs and took a taxicab home. He promised that he wouldn’t drink and thought he could do it all on his own. No one could tell Ed what to do.

March 10, 2019

The corvette was so rotted out in the back yard that one door wouldn’t shut, and we couldn’t find the title to it.
Ed wanted to get money for it but no one would buy it. Keith tried to sell to no avail. We ended trading it for plumbing under the house.

These were in the rafters of the barn in 2019. I was required by the VA to get rid of all guns that were not locked up on the property when Ed was recovering from a fall Nov 20, 2019 to Dec. 10 2020. He was not allowed to have home health care without removing the guns. I sold some to help with paying taxes and additions to the property and locked some up in the barn away from him. This made him very mad at me.

The motorcycle was in the barn.

April 2, 2019

Ed cut up his debit card as somehow it got compromised. He was using it too much for alcohol, so I tried to get him to write checks which he hated.

April 2, 2019 I moved this gazebo to our house.
Hans didn’t want the gazebo at his house so we moved it to Eds on the left side of the house. It made a great place to put tools and pot up plants.
(It is still there now at 350 Harlan 3 years later).

May 1, 2019 I was doing gardening again in the front of our house.

Sat May 4, 2019 This is how I fixed up the living room for us.

May 4 we got another dog “Ziggy” from the pound.
Ed wanted a dog to keep him company while I was away at work.

I started building the new chicken place in the back yard.

May 4 2019 Haircut time for Ed. I was taking care of my man but was not his caretaker which later APS would accuse me of.
I did what any married couple would do, and we got along fine as long as he wasn’t on a drinking binge.

He liked how this woman cut his hair.

May 6, 2019 Progress in the back yard

May 11 we got our new chicks

And some baby ducks May 15, 2019

May 20, 19 Ziggy was doing fine keeping Ed company when I was away.

Then one day, Ed forgot and left the front door open and she got picked up by animal control.
We relinquished her to the pound.

May 2019

June 8, 2019 back yard looking good. I had not yet built the additions onto the barn.

June 16, 2019 I took a trip to Texas for father’s day to visit my grandchildren, son, Franz and wife

Arrived back June 18, 2019

June 29, 2019 I came home from AR trip and Ed had a black eye from a drinking binge.
The toilet was bad. I decided to stay full time in the barn even though it wasn’t finished.

Now I was getting concerned and contacted his brother and friend Keith for advice and to help with Ed. Ed had also become abusive and I was finding myself in a domestic violence position.

I started fixing up the barn seriously for my space as Ed was keeping me up at night and would walk into my room with cigarette smoke at night. This wasn’t working anymore for me and I was trying to figure out what to do. Although we were committed husband and wife, we hadn’t officially gotten married and APS was calling me his caretaker. Never was that. This was so confusing as we wore both independently together and no one could tell Ed what to do. I didn’t know what their agenda was since they were supposed to help older people but would not hear anything from me.

July 13 – 29 I went to visit my daughter and grand kids in AR and traveled a bit.

July 31, 2019 I left AR for back home.

Started seriously fixing up the barn to be my space.

Sept 8, 2019 Hans went out of town so I was house sitting his pets.

By Oct 6, 2019 I had a decent place upstairs in the barn.

October 16, 2019 a carpenter built the beginning of the addition on the north side of the barn so I could move equipment out there without problems with the rain.
By Oct 26, 2019 The north side was finished for winter

By Oct 30, 2019 I made a new kitchen in the barn, installed new furnace with air conditioning.

This was my window greenhouse upstairs in the barn.

Nov 17, 2019 Ed’s truck tires going flat from sitting

Nov, 30,2019 I was house sitting for Hans again and stopped at home and found Ed had hit his head again. I took a movie of him saying he didn’t know what happened. After contacting Jim next door, and his brother Steve, I decided to call 911 as I wasn’t sure he would be OK. He looked terrible.

Ed was kept in the hospital for 10 days even though he would normally be sent home even though he had a concussion. But they needed to detox him since he had been drinking too much.

He fully recovered but the doctor told him he could never drink again.

After recovery, Keith picked him up at the hospital while I was working. They discharged him on his own. He did good for a while not drinking.
I think Keith brought him some beer though.

Dec 2019 Christmas Dinner. Ed fully recovered

Dec 31, 2019 Miki and I went out together to a restaurant and watched the fireworks.

2020
January 1, 2020 Miki bought me a new puppy to keep me company upstairs in the barn as I had it all set up now. She was so cute.

Chacha stayed with me upstairs in the barn when she wasn’t with my son and daughter.
She was so cute that I took thousands of pictures of her.

I sometimes took her to work with me. I was working with Haley now trying to train her.
January 3, 2020

Here on Jan 10, 2020 she is upstairs on my bed watching tv with me. You can see the toilet in the background that is getting ready to be installed as I was putting another bathroom upstairs. By this time, APS had been threatening me trying to accuse me of caretaker neglect of Ed and exploitation. They wouldn’t charge me, just kept threatening me.

January 13, 2020 Keith brought Ed alcohol. I applied for Meals on wheels for Ed since I was away working so much.
Here is a text message with Keith. His nickname was Jeet.

Jan 13, 2020

The lab was almost too busy to come home.

Ed was not driving the truck and I didn’t want him to drive drunk while I was at work so Keith disabled the truck and I had stopped the insurance the end of 2019

January 17, 2020 Cha Cha and I took a trip to Conway AR to visit Marcie. She loved the trip in the car.
Back home January 19, 2020

February 8, 2020 Now I was staying in the barn full time and let Ed have the house to himself. This is downstairs in the barn. Lots to still fix up. Still lots of tools around me. I had lab equipment at home so I could work at home when I couldn’t drive to work. Ed was doing fine in the house but he was pissed at me for staying in the barn – not in the house with him.

Feb 2020 Text to brother Steve

Friday February 14, 2020 I took Ed for his haircut and beard trim appointment.

February 22, 2020 Chacha so much bigger guarding the back yard. So much junk I need to clear out when I have time.

Feb 20, 2020 I notice that Ed’s skin wasn’t looking so good like he had bumped his arm.

Notified Keith but I also had some bumps like that. Getting old.

Saturday March 14, 2020
These are my bikes on the fence. South side

March 30, 2020 The back yard
April 1, 2020, sometimes Hans took care of Chacha. She was becoming the family dog and Ed didn’t like her. For some reason she would bark at him. March my work ended, and I was home all the time so I was really trying to do work around the place and finish the remodeling.

April 10, 2020 with no work I was trying to figure out how to make masks as a business.

We also had new baby chicks

April 21 we had a sewer problem and I had to remove part of the deck so a plumber could come to fix it. Very hard to get help during covid.

May 5, 2020

May 16, 2020 during Covid My son Franz had a brain tumor. I was locked up in the barn to say safe during covid and living in fear as I couldn’t go see him due to the pandemic. I was trying to keep Ed safe by not going into the house and keeping everyone away. I knew if he got Covid he would not live.

I was home full time with no lab work for 3 month and no income so spent time cleaning up the yard in the back of the property and doing additions on the barn so we had storage space. Finally started back to work in April.

June 1, 2020 I was making masks and selling them outside self-serve. I had bought several sewing machines.

Was trying to do a mask business by making masks during covid and selling them out front with self-serve on tables.

Some of the masks

Special note: Found this picture
When Ed fell Feb 30 2019 and before he came home I was required to get rid of all the loose guns around the property. A gun dealer who was recommended came and removed all the guns except the ones that were locked up in the safes. I had shut the safes months before Ed fell earily in 2019 and turned the locks as I was afraid since he was getting abusive and drunk before he went into the hospital. When the gun dealer checked the safes, the small one somehow was open with these three machine guns in there. He said they could not be removed from the property and were worth about $60,000 each and would take a lot of paperwork. I took a picture, and we locked them up again.

October 2020 when the home health nurse called me she found this same safe open and asked if she should report it. I was no longer living there at that time.

July 28, 2020 APS showed up due to the friends that visited him, Mike and Marlene Bough
I did some research on them after both Keith and Steve told me who they were and to call the police if they ever showed up again. They were the cause of APS showing up. Diane Head was the lead person who started threatening me about Ed and his care. This was a picture I took of her manager. They were isolating Ed from me. None of us could figure out their agenda. I thought they were wanting the property as they didn’t seem to really take any care of Ed even though they took over the money and kept saying I was supposed to be his caretaker. They kept referring to me as his caretaker seeming to infer that being his wife I should be his caretaker. That was never an agreement between Ed and me and he never took care of me.

The other person’s name was Diane Head who was verbally abusive to me. I think Tina was the manager. They started threatening me and not letting me be around Ed when they questioned him. I told them the truth about everything that was going on, but they seemed to think I should be responsible for him. They kept insinuating that I was his caretaker. I made it clear that we were common law life partners and that recently Ed had become unmanageable, and I moved to the barn to get away from his cigarette smoke and drinking. I started down playing the wife part as it seemed to be equal to caretaking. Our agreement was to share life together in our forever home.
I showed them the paperwork where I had taken Ed to the VA earlier for a cognitive test to be sure he could take care of himself. They said he was fine.

I also showed them all my paperwork, wills and POAs. They forced me to clean Ed’s kitchen by threatening me and having a policeman there with them.
The cop with them said, “Just clean up after him.” She seem apologetic.

Aug 1, 2020 I was still taking care of the property outside, finishing all the remodeling. And hired full time caretaker.

Because of APS, I hired a full-time caretaker, Anna, to live in the house with Ed.
I put an ad in Craigslist and Anna showed up and she fit perfectly as she smoked like he did. They got along well.

By this time we had traded the corvette for plumbing under the house. We had sold the bike for $1500. I was doing cleanup in the backyard. I was still paying for remodeling help.

I was doing a mask business at home and back to work in the lab too.

This was my mask display outside the garage door

Aug 29, I was busy cleaning away all this junk still not knowing APS’s agenda and I had informed them that Ed was being taken care of by Anna.

Sept 1, 2020 I was hanging out upstairs in the barn. I found out that APS had locked up our checking account.

Sept 4, 2020, I finally got it across to Ed that they had his money so that was finally enough for him to quit drinking. What we didn’t know at the time was that it was too late for him to fight them. Once they take over and start isolating the person, there is no recourse in CO. I took a video recording of him sober verbally making a statement as he was so angry with them and also helped him make a notarized statement. I also got him a court ordered lawyer that was supposed to defend them from APS.

Andrew was kind enough to notarize it for Ed.

More cleanup around the property and I replaced the toilet in the house

Sept 10, 2020 I was still making masks and selling them self-serve outside.

This is when I got the first paperwork finding out APS was charging me and blaming me for Eds drinking.

I had already started putting a hot tub together at Eds. I finished the barn, replaced that deck over the drain, painted the barn, finished the remodeling upstairs.
I was beginning to realize I was going to be fighting a government agency and they wanted the property.

Ed had quit drinking cold turkey, I had informed APS who were wanting to take over, and they just told Anna the caretaker to watch Ed.
They didn’t give him any treatment or take care of him.

Sept 15, 2020 Ed had a psychotic episode due to no treatment quitting alcohol cold turkey.
It turns out he always could quit, he just needed something important enough for him to want to – money.

Sept 16, 2020 I had stopped at the house and Anna had left for some reason. Ed came out of the house shouting and threatening and didn’t know who I was. He acted like he was going to kill me. I ran and hid in the barn and called Hans. We went to the courthouse and got a restraining order. I was so traumatized that I couldn’t even answer the judge without crying. The court granted me the temporary restraining order. When the police came, he had calmed down and Ed is conditioned to respond compliant to authority. I left him alone until the next day, then called the VA to report the episode to them. The nurse advised me to bring him in as they thought he might have had a stroke. I took him into the VA and turned his care over to the VA and APS.

The next day after delivering Ed to the VA, I went back to the courthouse and stopped the protecction order as I knew I was going to leave the property but was going to need to get my things and knew Ed was not being violent anymore. I still cared about him. He didn’t seem to be scary anymore and he was no longer drinking. It just seemed like the right thing to do. I also wasn’t sure if APS would just go away since he was no longer drinking. Little did I know about APS and their determination to take over, take the money, and be against me.

Sept 17, 2020. Then I came home and took pictures of what I had accomplished most recently on the property. Barn was finished and painted. Stuff left was organized in the yard. I needed to figure out how to move the hot tub I had been building in the back.

Then, I took off driving on a trip to my daughter’s and recover from all the stress and try to think of what is next.

Miki and I went to Moffat and camped out and Pagosa Springs

Sept 21, 2020 I got a notice I was being served with documents.

I didn’t get this until much later than the date on the document

Sept 23, 2020 It was obvious to me that APS was going ahead with taking over Ed and our property that I decided to resign everything. I was so upset going into the VA to see Ed that the nurse thought I was trying to get him to sign the house over to me when it was the opposite. I was giving him the house back. At that moment, since they were deciding that he was incompetent, how could he accept my giving back the house? How would his signature be valid? Here is a paper from the VA records where they are afraid that the property will be waisted and it is clear that they want it.

Ed wanted to fight APS to be free and I was trying to help him by getting an attorney for him. Met with him Sept 28, 2020 and gave him some files. My intention was for him to represent Ed ad Ed had talked to him several times the last 2 weeks trying to see if this was the right thing to do but when we met he told me that I was the one that needed representation since it looked like APS was trying to fight me so I agreed for 1 day and then cancelled him when he told me to do nothing. He back billed me for all the time he talked to Ed. Cost me $1800 and did nothing.

Notice where Diane Head states that the property will be waisted unless they get conservator. This must be where Virginia is hired.

Oct 3, 2020

I gave Ed a ride to pick up his health information. He seemed intent on getting these people out of his life. Little did he or me know how useless it was by this time. I also didn’t know that he was the one who had started this with Mike because he was mad at me trying to restrict his alcohol. Ed had lost his phone, so I paid for a new one for him.

Oct 4, 2020 I had paid $2300 for this buy to build me a hot tub and buy new parts so I had to dismantle it to move it to my daughter’s house and have him set it up all over again.

October 18, temporary setup in my daughter’s house extra bedroom. Most the time lived in the lab.

October 25, 2020 Went to AR to visit daughter Marcie

Nov 5, 2020 came back to remove some of my stuff from the house

Sept 30, 2020 I came home to move my stuff and take a last picture of things at home.

Nov 24, 2020 set up the mask business in a new office at 6^th and Sheridan

Moved mask bus into lab.
Nov 24, 2020 Snowstorm

Nov 25, 2020

Couldn’t sell the masks at the off ice so moved a display to Miki’s house self-serve.

Dec 25 moved the dental equipment to the new lab space with a place for me to hang out and changed my hair to blue
Set up Internet there. And got together with family for Christmas

2021

Jan 4, 2021 Miki gave me a temporary space in her Garage

Feb 3, 2021 Miki was trying to help me. I was not doing well.

Sun, March 14, 2021 snowed in again…

Feb 10, 2021 working in my office and fighting APS

March 15, 2021 I had changed my address to a po box and got this

April 9, 2021

May 26, 2021 Back to gardening but now at Miki’s house and Hans house.

Gardening refreshes my soul

House sitting for Hans too.

July 12, 21 I was working in the lab and got this bad feeling that something was wrong with Ed. I had not seen him for a long time so drove over to his house. He didn’t answer the door but it was unlocked so stepped in and saw this. Could not wake him up. He was obviously passed out drunk under APS care and the place was filthy.

I notified 911 for a welfare check.
I went back July 21, 2021 to take pictures of how bad the yard was. No one was taking care of the property or Ed it seemed.

I had been fighting with the court to keep my fair level hearing. They were trying to keep me from my fair level hearing rights.

Virginia questioning me about checks I had written while I had the financial POA

This was legal on my part. It was from our joint checking account.
When I reported them for Ed’s lack of care, they started a case against me that I had to get a lawyer for.

Aug 13, 2021 Harvest time

Sept 1, 2021 Still not recovered from long trip to Marcie’s in Jan 2020

2022

Jan 8, 2022 colored my hair black to be not noticeable and hiding in fear of APS and just staying to myself they were still trying to accuse me of what they were doing.

May 5, 2022 Was staring a group on Meetup for making movies so Chacha and I were looking for places to meet. She loves this park.

Group of 6 people working with me, we were first doing a film about the first guy that started the meetup who had a brain tumor, but his wife decided he shouldn’t do it.
May 27, 2022 we started making a movie about Alexia’s story but after I had worked with her she went to her therapist and the therapist came down on her and she dropped out.
Then we met at my office and kicked around a few ideas but after that they all dropped out so I decided to do the movie about my story with Ed.

May 27, 2022 I had not seen Ed since that last fiasco so stopped to see him. He seemed to be doing great and he was glad to see me. Evidently they were no longer giving him alcohol and someone was coming once a week to take him to the grocery. Said he rarely saw Keith.

July 7, 2022 Lance kitty disappeared so I went to Lost and found

Luckily, he showed up a week later.

June 20, 2022 Yards in full bloom

Miki fighting for women on strike.

July 26, 2022 After being sick since Jan 2020 trip to Marcie’s house going through so much pain in my butt, Illneess called Ribido and all the dr visits, Miki and I take a short trip to Roosevelt National Forest to see if I can handle being in the car with the pain in my body for more than 15 min. Not a good trip. Both of us in too much body pain. We have had a special seat for me for the last 2 years so I could drive to Dr Maloy’s office. She had chauffeured me there for almost a year in the back seat of her car but that is getting old. It has been more than 2 years. I work standing up and can hardly lay down to sleep.

Tue, Aug 26, 2022 I finally got this text message from my Lawyer Jasen fighting Lakewood police as Ed had made a false police report when his guardian took all his guns. I have a recording that I took of him seeing him on the street in front of his house after they took the guns and he had made a report. He could remember what happened, said he found $15,000 in the safe in a false door that they didn’t know was there in the safe after they left but later when I saw him out side again and questioned him, he couldn’t even remember what had happened.

Miki and I took a trip to Burning Man and came back Sept 5, 2022. We had a great time but we both got Covid, and the trip back was hell with her being in physical pain.

I recovered, and the case against me was over, and since I worked on myself so much and stayed off my butt, I was feeling pretty good to visit people now.

Sept 16 – 19 I quickly flew to Carlsbad to visit Rach my client and old friend from 2010 as she needed to work on her pain of losing her son. Good to be home.

Sept 20,22 Charlotte’s daughter asked for coaching help. Overlooking her place. However, I found her real problem was alcoholism at a later date so excused myself.

Sept 29, 2022 Ed phoned me to tell me I had some mail there.

Looks like the guardian was caught buying gift cards with Ed’s money and the court stopped her.

Oct 3, 2022 Marcie and Brad stopped to visit us on their trip. We all had lunch together. I am so glad that he recovered from his illness.

Thur, Oct 6-12, 2022 I flew to Abilene, TX to visit my son Franz and his family.

It was so much fun to see the grandkids and practice drawing with them.

November 2, 2022 took another trip to Carlsbad to see Rach as friends this time and we took a road trip to Solvang, CA. We met originally when she came to our house in Lakewood when I had an Emotionology meetup there for people. She now had gotten a therapist in SD and she thought we would just be friends. Turns out her idea of friendship was different than mine. I had been her coach since 2010. Now that her son died she needed a therapist there to deal with the loss of her son at $200 per hour. I stopped contact with her after this trip and had to work on myself doing some techniques to get over the emotional pain this caused me.

It was good to arrive home Nov 12, 2022

Nov 24, 2022 Thanksgiving

Saw Ed and we brought him thanksgiving dinner. He seemed fine. He had really lost weight.

November 22, 2023 Last pic I took of him. I saw him for thanksgiving and Christmas.

Dec 18, 2022 I had stopped in and he told me he really wanted to find a lawyer to get out from under these people so I took some pictures of the white board I had put up for him years ago so he knew who to call if needed as he didn’t know who these people were that would come to see him. People had added numbers to my original notes.

Christmas at Miki’s and saw Ed after to give him a Christmas gift. We just met on the porch. He showed me that his teeth were suddenly falling out. The whole roots were falling out. I sent him dental phone numbers as I knew they had money of his that would pay. Wish I had taken a picture of him since he looked so bad after seeing him Thanksgiving. I texted him Dr Maloy’s phone number to get his teeth fixed but never heard back and never heard from him again. These are the family Christmas pictures for Christmas.

Ed didn’t seem ill and didn’t complain. He was going over and having coffee with neighbor Jim said and seemed OK.

Did they even take him to the doctor in the last couple years? I had his liver tested in 2019 and it was fine. How could this happen so quickly? Why didn’t his family and Keith honor his previous wishes? They all had copies of the 2 wills he made for me. He wanted to be buried in Michigan. Why was he cremated so quickly? The estate could easily have paid for his burial.

Sun, Dec 25, 2022 My hair turned red when I tried to get the black out so wore a red wig for our Christmas pary.

Dec 29m 2022 Snowed in again.

Fri, Jan 6, 2023 for my birthday we all had dinner together again. I had no idea that they had taken Ed to some care unit. Nobody notified me.
Miki’s septic system was torn up and everything had been crazy. She needed
10 grand to cover it before insurance kicked in. I lent her my cc. This was going on while I was also just finding out that Ed was dead.

Wed, Feb 8, 2023 I was at the Dentist’s office seeing patients, and Neighbor Jim called me to tell me Ed has been gone for a while and Keith is at the house with his truck open and another car there. He had noticed Ed had gone quite a while ago and he didn’t know what had happened. I had to do some research and found his Obituary online. I took off from the dentist office I was so upset and went to Virginia’s office to confront her. I was devastated.

Hired a lawyer Tom Ripp

We found the witness to the first will that Ed gave me.
5/1/23 Told Tom to file the papers for trial and subpoena the records. And that I will put together concise timeline with pictures, emails, and texts.
February 25, 2023 Seeing good friend Anna visiting from Alaska

Ed’s Obituary

Sun, Feb 26 at 12:15 PM
https://allstatescremation.com/tribute/details/312213/Edward-Lenca/obituary.html