Ed and I were together in common law marriage from 2008- 2020 through ups and down.
In Feb 2019, I started noticing he was spending lots of $ on alcohol and Iwas concered that he was driving drunk. I started communicating with Ed’s brother Steve, letting him know what was going on. I was very close with Ed’s family
Communications with Ed’s brother, Steve. Via text
2/2/19 12:38 PM Mary To Steve: Ed let some bar biddy crash on the couch in the middle of the night last night. The guy said he’s staying several days so I am crashing at my office. Most the time he is OK but has been going on drinking binges off and on. He can’t keep his agreement of not smoking in t he house and I can’t live with his smoke. So, I am spending money fixing up the barn.
2/8/19 Mary to Steve: I set him up with a new doctor to have an apt to talk about the drinking problem, thinking maybe he was depressed. 2/9/19 Mary: He’s a Marine so he prides himself on not showing or admitting that anything is wrong. Somehow he needs to know it’s ok to say whats wrong or that your body is failing.
2/13/19 I took Ed for that Dr apt. The doctor talked to him and convinced him to enter a detox Feb 13, 2019.
Ed enter the detox program by pressure from the doctor
2/13/19 Mary to Steve: He thinks the doctor said his liver is not that bad yet. What he meant, was it isn’t at the point of no return. Mary: The nurse said they can’t keep him against his will and he decided not to stay so I told him to take a taxi home. He needs to be responsible for himslef I know he just lost his patience waiting you know it takes a long time to get admitted. If you can call him they said he could come back in. Steve: I talked to him, he’s on edge I could tell. I think I convinced him to stay. Someone approached him to start checking him in so he had to go. I told him to call me anytime he needs to. I told him what he had to loose, if he didn’t stay, and take it one day at a time. 2/13/19 4:57 PM Mary: I think what convinced him, is the doctor told him that if his liver fails, and he’s at a point now where it could, he would have a very painful long miserable death. Steve: Hope they get through to him…..
2/14/19 7:49 AM Mary: Thank you for doing that. I’m almost afraid to go visit him for fear he’ll ask me to take him home but so far he’s stayed I will keep you posted if you can call him sometime again encourage him… 2/14/19 11:49 AM Mary: I just talked to Eds doctor she said he hasn’t had medicine yet because he doesn’t have any symptoms yet. He hasn’t even been there 24 hrs and he’s calling me to come home. Any chance you could call him again? Steve’s wife: Mary, Liz here. Does he have his phone there? Mary: Yes, I might have to bring the charger though. Liz: Okay. Switching to my phone.
Ed took a taxi home. Ed promised to stop drinking and stayed sober for some time.
2/21/19 Mary to Steve: I’m trying to live and let live. If I’m there too much I think he feels guilty and rebellious because he thinkis I’m watching him. Ed has his home health visit Monday afternon we’ll see how that goes. Ed clearly doesn’t want help to quit drinking, and since he walked out, they won’t let him back in. We need to let go and let him make his choices. I’m spending a lot more time staying at the lab so he can have his privacy and live the way he wants to live. I don’t want to watch him drink himself to death and with my cold I just can’t breathe that cigarette smoke. He just can’t seem to understand….
Things were good with Ed until Nov 30, 2019.
11/2/19 It snowed and I injured my shoulder shoveling myself out of the driveway to go to work. I was spening a lot on cc fixing up barn for me to hang out there. In the house, Ed would keep me up at night and his cigarette smoke was killing me. I had to remodel the barn in order to live in there. New kitchen, bathroom, heat and airconditioning. Total remodel upstairs at my expense. $12,000 upstairs, $6,000 on West side addition, $9,000 on North side, dumpster charges etc.
11/22/19 Ed started binging on alcohol again. Than 12/24/19 Ed was doing better. It starte to be up and down.
Reporting to brother Steve regarding Ed.
11/19/19 10:01 AM to Steve. Mary: I’ve arranged home health care for Ed with the VA since I live in the barn and he needs separate food and housecleaning.
11/19/19 Steve: I’m hoping Ed accepts the help, it certainly will be good for both of you. Let me know how it goes Mary.
Steve is Ed’s good brother that I communicated with regularly. Telling him I had moved to the barn due to Ed’s cigarettes. Keeping Steve up to date.
11/26/19 Hurt my rotator cuff shoveling the snow.
11/30.19 Was a crazy day. Ed had been snowed in since Nov 26 and I was dealing with my shoulder injury as well as housesitting my Hans pets while he was out of town. I had been texting to Brother that AM. Ed had been going crazy isolated for several days because of the storm and not sleeping.
4/30/19 8:30 AM Steve: Agree, 4 days with no sleep would be tough on anyone. Mary: The only way he can sleep is with alcohol, but he was so worked up about the snow outside and being shut in that he wasn’t drinking. He seemed to have finally fallen asleep. I’ll keep checking on him, but I am housesitting my son’s pets. Steve: You are truly his lifesaver!
11/30/19 2PM Stopped at the house. Ed fell down and hit his head. I didn’t know whether to call 911 Ed asking me not to. Here are some of the texts. Messaged neighbor Jim and Steve.
Since Ed was in the hospital, I had a rotator cuff injury, and also sick. I contacted Ed’s old time friend Keith who had visited us probably 3 times since 2008. Ed had no other local friends and I needed help with Ed and asked if he would visit Ed in the hosp.
Texts with Keith (Everyone called him ‘Jeet’) He never knew Ed’s family
12/1/19 4:50 pm Mary to Keith: They have case work up at 10 tomorrow and we’ll know more then. He looked awful and kept falling out of bed and they kept putting him back in.
12/2/19 11:59 AM Keith: Sue and I stopped to see him earlier. He was really out of it. I am going to try again on my way through. Mary: He’s having withdrawal and is on some medication so they can’t even get him up right now. The doctor said they’re going to keep him a few more days because they can’t tell if it’s withdrawal from alcohol that’s causing the bad confusion or yes, it’s because of the head injury.
12/3/19 10:27 AM Mary: Let me know if you go visit Ed today. I can’t leave work so I’m not going to be able to go over there unless I need to, but I’d like to know how he is. Keith: Actually, I am on my way right now. Should be there within 10-15 min. I’ll touch base with you later. Mary: I just called there, and they said he’s been sleeping completely all the time all night….
12/3/19 Mary: How is he? Keith: Sleeping. Seems to be resting well. No tremors like yesterday. Peaceful. Mary: Oh that’s great. Keith: Nurse is on the way to give me an update. She says he is much more comfortable today. The withdrawals are better. Weaning him off the medicine for that. Would like to get him up to eat but it’s OK that he is sleeping all the time. Said to expect another couple days of lots of sleep. Mary: Hasn’t eaten anything? I want to get in there and give him a haircut and beard trim. Keith: I am not sure if he has eaten anything but the nurse said they we’re going to try to get him up and eat something today but she was OK with him resting now. Mary: OK
12/4/19 9:30 AM Mary: I was just at the hospital gave Ed a beard trim and cut his hair and they[re feeding him something…. evidently he broke a bone in his face when he fell, he’s still very disoriented but he is awake asking for a cigarette of course. They’ll be keeping him for a while yet he has not been able to stand up yet.
12/4/19 9:57 AM Keith: I have 4 meetings today, just finishing the first one. I am going to try and swing by after the next one.
12/4/19 12:39 PM Keith: I’ve visited with Ed. Woke him up a couple times. Got a “hey what’s happening: but he went back to sleep both times. Mary: Yeah probably going to be that way until they quit this medicine.
12/4/19 1:34 PM Keith: Just stopped in and seen Ed. Status quo. Different nurse again today. Said he was a little agitated earlier. But he did feed himself a bit today. Confused again and wasn’t sure he was in the hospital. He was sleeping and the nurse couldn’t wake him. Decided probably best just to let him continue and rest today. Mary: I was over there at 7 am to 8:15 and fed him breakfast. He ate pretty good but he is very confused he thought he was at home and that somebody was in his kitchen when you could see the woman out there at the desk. Keith: well the eating a little bit sounds like a good thing. Did they put the mittens back on him while you were there: Mary: Yeah ….. and a diaper to keep him from pulling his catheter out. Oops that didn’t make sense. Yes they had his mittens on.
12/6/19 11:22 Keith: I just left the hospital. We got there while the doctor was doing a review with the on floor nurse and help. He said that they were going to make a change in some meds dosages and than Ed needs to have an MRI. He could not get Ed awake to recognize me or Susie while he was there. But after they left we stayed with him and the sitter who is going to be with him all day. I was then able to get him up enough to recognize me and say Hi Jeet. Mary: OMG He seemed a lot better last night when I saw him he definitely could ask me questions and was quite awake but he thought he was at home. I have to work today until later tonight to stop in. Keith: Not sure when they are going to do the MRI. The one guy said that they would schedule it today but wasn’t sure if it would be done asap.
12/6/19 12:18 PM Mary: OK I’m headed over there.
12/6/19 1/11 PM Keith: OK Keep me posted We will try to stop by tomorrow. Let me know if you find out and ‘or any information . Mary: Ok they say they expect him to be in here until early next week before going to a nursing facility. I’m trying to pick a place in Lakewood but not every place will accept an alcoholic.
12/7/19 5:12 PM Mary to Keith: Do you have his brother’s phone number if you wanted to talk to him and tell him how things are going from your point of view?
12/7/19 8:22PM Keith: Sure What’s his ### Mary: I talked to the nurse tonight. Ed’s kind of acting like an angry two year old he thought he was at home and wanted everybody out of the house . as I talked with the nurse she wasn’t too positive she said he had a good morning and then it was bad this afternoon and he has lost his VA benefits because he didn’t make his appointments. She wasn’t too hopeful about the future. Steve’s number is 906-399-2714 Steve mostly tests because he works 12-hr shifts. Keith: Oh no. Let’s hope it was just a bad day. I will try to touch base with him tomorrow. Get some rest.
12/8/19 10:07 AM Mary: Ed was coherent this morning, but they said it comes and goes with him. He is sitting up and I’ll bring him his cel phone tomorrow so he can talk on the phone. Of course, he wants out of here but they still can’t get him to walk even with a walker safely, but he is eating by himself. I forgot to ask them if they could give him something for anxiety if you go in there would you ask them?
12/8/1200: PM Keith: I was just leaving the hospital. I was only with him for 10 minutes. They pulled the camera out and have a human sitter with him again. He is sitting up in the reclining chair. They said he was doing well open until about now. He tried a couple of times to get out of the chair. He told the sitter he can go anywhere he wants! Can you talk? Mary: Yes give me a call.
12/8/19 12:57 PM Mary: I am getting estimates on the motorcycle and that he had an accident with and the car that’s deteriorating in the back yard. This what I got…I got an offer for $1400 but I’m not talking to him. The vette needs total cosmetic redo so we may be lucky to get $2500 for that. Do you have any more info that can help me on that? Keith: I have no idea on the Corvette. It would depend on what kind of updates he finally did to it before he quit driving it. I’d belong to an antique motorcycle club. Let me ask around about the 85 Harley.
12/9/19 10:57 AM Keith OK. Mary: Was he wanting to come home: Keith: No, he was very quiet this morning. I was only there for about 15 minutes, and he was “napping” for 10. He looked and sounded semi-content this morning compared to pissed off old bastard yesterday.
12;9;19 6:44pm Mary: Ed has his phone. He’s talking to his brother Steve right now. He got up and walked today they don’t have room in the other floors for him so he’s still in the same place. They can’t release him until he doesn’t need a sitter tonight cuz he keeps trying to get out of there.
12/10/19 3:pm Keith: Start. They moved Ed to the 5th floor. He’s in 504. Dong well today. He wolfed down a bacon lettuce sandwich. We talked a lot he didn’t get agitated nor felt any need to make any breakout attempts. Mary: LOL he called me quite a bit today and I finally had to ask the nurse to take the phone away or hide it for a while cuz I can’t talk when I am with patients. Did he seem like he could get up and walk by himself yet? Did he still have a sitter? I’m going to try to get over there in a few hours. Keith: He still has a sitter, Ryan had him moving after they moved him to the 5th floor. A few steps towards the window and back to the chair. About 20 minutes after he finished eating, He said he was feeling ready for a nap. Mary: OK
12/12/19 4:45 PM Keith: I left Ed a little bit ago. He’s moving around really good today. He’s a little antsy though, thinks he might get to go home tomorrow. He said no one told him that but…I couldn’t get his nurse to get any updates as I was leaving. He was looking for his pants in the closet and he needs to go to the bathroom about every 10 minutes. Mary: I was over there at noon to talk to the nurse and she said he has to have 24 hrs without a sitter before they will release him so she said its probably going to be a couple more days he is very antsy and I thought today he was going to try to break out. He looked really good though and he’s confused once in a while but not all the time. She said he wasn’t quite steady enough on his feet yet. Keith: Ya he does not look steady but he is motoring around really good. He was quite coherent when not being confused in search for his pants. Mary: Ya he wants to get his pants on so we can skip out of there.
12/14.19 10:57 AM Keith: No, I have not been over to see him yet. Was going to go later this afternoon also. He just left me a voicemail that said he is going to get out on Monday and wanted to know if I could pick him up. Have you heard anything like that? Mary: Just talked to the nurse and Monday they plan on moving him to a skilled nursing facility. Keith: OK. I am tied up after 1PM I can give him a call then. Mary: Ya, I’m going to go over this afternoon too. I want to try to have a good talk with him about quitting drinking. I thought this would be a good time to get a price on the vet and get it moved out of there because he’s such a hoarder and won’t let go of anything and it’s just rotting away in the backyard but nobody wants it in that condition. I guess you’ll have 20 days in the nursing facility before I have to come up with extra money for his care so everything can just sit and I don’t really have time for it anyway.
12/14/19/11:52 AM Mary: I am at the hospital now. I’m going to see how rational he is.
12/14/19 12:30 PM Mary: They don’t have a sitter today they have a security camera that goes off every time he gets up. So I had a big scare when I thought I would see how well he could walk. The nurse broke it to him that he’s going to a nursing facility Monday, and he seemed to be accepting of that for now. I told him he had to get well and I have an appointment with dr Chin to get his VA benefits back and he has to accept that he needs physical therapy. I told him I would check tomorrow to find out if he remembers that. He said he remembers falling but the wrong time he fell not this time. He tried to persuade me to cut his identification band off LOL. He thinks he’s still that boy that used to get in trouble and landed in the hospital for a motorcycle accident. We have to help him understand that life has changed, and he has to take care of his body and he is not a kid anymore. He said he would quit being a good boy on top of his list. His Humor… Remind him when you see him.
12/14/19 3:50 PM Keith Really good day with that today. Mary: Yes I thought he was in great shape today too.
12/14/19 10:53 AM Hey Jeet, I’m not feeling well today so I probably won’t go in to see Ed. I might have a gallbladder or appendix problem that I have to check out.
12/15/19 11:17 PM Keith: I’ll stop up and see him in a bit.
12;15;19 12:41 PM Mary: Let me know how Ed is today. Keith: Will do, We are watching the Bronco game. Mary: Oh sounds good. I’ve been in bed and I think I need to go to sleep for a while so if I don’[t answer that’s why. Keith: Take care
12/15/19/1:P36 PM Keith: Ed was OK today. Probably not as “happy” as he has been. We had a pizza hut pizza and watched the game . We decided that the pizza was good but the game suck! He wants to get out of the chair and move around. Go to the bathroom without telling them and go get his own coffee with sets off the alarm and aggravates the nurses. They do not know anything definite about when he will be moving to a facility. Hoping to hear something tomorrow. He said he is ready to move onto the next stage whatever it is. Mary: Does he seem to realize the next stage is a nursing facility and physical therapy? I’m glad you could spend time with him. I don’t think he enjoys anybody else’s company like he does yours. Keith: Yes, he knows that. I talked to him about the move. Mary: Great. Keith: They said if he’s being moved to a facility that they would take care of the move. We may just have to move his personal stuff later. Mary: OK, He only has his wallet and his keys shoes and pants and to and some glasses I left him and his phone he can take those with him. Keith: I told him he needed to do physical therapy for his muscles so he can move a little bit better, and they will be checking him for the concussion from the fall. He seemed to understand all that. Mary: Good I know you’re one person he can listen to. Keith: I don’t know about that; As I was leaving, I told him to make sure he calls the nurses before he makes a move from the chair. I wasn’t 20 feet outside his door, and his alarm went off and he had got up with his coffee cup to leave and go get a cuuppa coffee. What are you going to do? Mary: Is it he can’t remember that he can’t just get up without an alarm or is he doing it out of stubbornness: I know they are afraid he’s going to fall down in the hospital and make it worse, but it seems like they could put the alarm by the door and let him go to the bathroom and move around a little bit more. Keith: Ya, they Seema little bitchy today when he se the alarms off. Mary: How is his recent memory and has he got out of his confusion almost completely? Keith: He seems quite coherent, but his reasoning is lacking a bit.
12/15/4:58 PM Mary: Ed just called me four times in a row and asked me the same question, How do I get out of here and can’t remember so I guess his memory still isn’t good. 12/15/19/606 PM Mary: Just talked to the nurse and she said ask her the same question over and over he’s called me like 5 times in the last hour asking me to get out of there so he is being bad.
12/15/19 6:22 PM Keith: Ya I am afraid you are right. Gotta minute to chat? Mary: Give me a few minutes I’ll call you back.
I was also texting brother Steve. 12/16/19
More Keith texts
12/16/19 6:17 PM Mary: You could bring him home if you know somebody that would stay with him the first 24 hours that doesn’t mind cigarette smoke. But I need to get an appointment with him with the VA to try to get him reinstated so he needs to stay there really until I can do that.
12/17/19 7:35 AM Keith: Yes on the VA. I will swing by sometime around lunch to see what’s happening today and how he is doing. Mary: Well I have a drs VA apt at 2 so I’ll see him before that.
12/17/19 Back to Steve
12/18/19 Keith brough Ed home from Hosp. They had released Ed on his own.
12/21/19 Mary to Steve/ Mary: Keith came over and helped Ed get the truck started today and it’s on the charger. There seems to be something wrong with the charging system, but we’ll see tomorrow. He’s not in any condition to try to drive but it was good of Keith to come and help him and spend some time with him. Steve: For sure, gives him company and something to do. Mary: Yeah and there’s some girl that came by tonight but someone from the bar, wanted to take him to dinner but he wasn’t up for it. I think he’s enjoying all the attention but not interested in spending time with her. Steve: That’s awesome!
12/23/19 Mary to Steve. Ed has been doing good. Steve to Mary: Just talked to him, he seemed very good, thanks for text Mary! 12/24/19 Steve: Merry Christmas Mary! Hoping you are finally relaxing a bit and your shoulder is healing. 12/30/19 Mary: Really cold in my house too have to stay under the covers. I don’t have a furnace hooked up in the barn yet. It’s the space heaters but I am fine.
12/30/19 7:55 AM Mary to daughter Miki: I have to get Ed to the VA by 10:30 and I am still at the office. I don’t know what time I’ll be done with Ed. His apt is 10:30 but then I don’t have to be back to the office until 3.
12/31/19 Ed’s text to me at the office and 1/7/20 and 3/2/20 We didn’t text much only talked on phone.
2020
1/1/20 12:24 PM Mary to Steve: My kids got me a new puppy for my birthday.
1/2/20 8:57 PM Mary to Steve: It seems to still be doing pretty well. I feel bad that I can’t stay in the house where Ed is very long to keep him company at all cus of smoke. I can’t breathe especially with a cold. But I wanted you to know he looks good. Steve: Happy new year Mary: Been working midnights but off work for couple of days now. I’ll try calling him either tonight or tomorrow.
1/3/20 11:38 AM Mary to daughter Miki: My dentist is taking a vacation from the 15th to 23re and I might drive to see Marcie. Miki to Mary: You have MRI today. Mary: Yes. Just got out of my appointment, cha-cha is waiting for me in the car. 1/4/20 Ed doesn’t know I have Cha-cha yet and I don’t want her smelling like cigarette smoke from the house. Ed has completely accepted that I live in the back house, and I just take him food and his cigs and alcohol and we leave each other alone.
1/6/20 8:05 AM Ed to Brother Steve: is willing to sell motorcycle he needs to pay the property taxes so I was going to ask the guy for 1,500. 1/7/20 Steve: Great progress! Meals on wheels should work out better for both of you for sure. Thanks for the update! Tell Ed I’ll call him at the end of week. I’ll keep you posted on Liz progress, she’s still in surgery. 1/7/20 11:10 AM Mary: OK we’re finally done with the appointment for Ed. He had blood work. He has a couple other appointments that I’ll need to get him to, and he signed a medical directive while he was there in case he becomes incapacitated. Your name is on it as well as mine and he said he doesn’t want to be resuscitated if he’s terminal or in a coma. He was really with it today.
1/8/20 7:20 PM Mary to Miki. My birthday, I decided I’m going to leave the night of the 14th and drive all night to Marcy’s house and then probably leave on Sunday…
1/14/202 Trip to AR
1/18/20 9:07 AM Mary to Christine: I’m in Arkansas get back to you when I get home. Wish we could talk easier about things so hard on the phone.
1/19.20 Mary to Steve: I took a few days to visit my daughter in AR and my granddaughter in OK. I did find while I was gone Ed had a visit from Keith so he’s good. 1/19/20 5:32 PM Steve: Thanks for update! Tried calling Ed few days ago but didn’t answer. Carol did call him and they had good talk. Liz’s recovery continues to be a struggle so hopefully…..1/21/20 9:44 AM Mary: Ever since Ed being in the hospital he has been looking so much better. He has really recovered, and I think he is doing well. The best I have seen him in the last 2 years. 1/21/20 11:57 AM Great news!! Hopefully you can keep him on track. I’m in ER with Liz now, they may be sending her back to Mayo for surgery, her internal incision has opened….5:49PM Mary: I told Ed about it. He’s going to try to call you tomorrow. Fingers crossed everything goes well. Let me know when you have some news. 6:17 PM Mary: Did you make it there okay and how is Liz? 7:26 PM Steve: Yes, left at 7:30 and got there at 1:15 so that went well….
Occasionally Keith would stop by, and I had texted him saying Ed will probably call you as the truck was not working and we were not fixing it as I had caught him drinking and driving. So, I once again Feb 20, 2020: I started communicating with Keith to see if he would help me with Ed.
2/1/20 Mary to Steve: He was really with it today but quite shaky because I restricted his alcohol one day. Let me know how it works out with Liz. They’re going to do meals on wheels which is cheaper than my trying to buy all that frozen food and probably is better food. He has a cognitive test on the 17th. So that we have a baseline as we see how things go and they gave him some….
2./18/20 Mary to Keith: He seems to be doing good in the morning right now, but I’ll have to let you know. Keith: OK. Mary: We can play it by ear, see what you schedule is and whenever it works out for the best. 2/20/20 4:10 PM Mary: Ed is asking for a ride down to the auto repair, but I told him I couldn’t do that and he’ll probably call you. Keith: Obviously, We have been putting that off for weeks. Any suggestion on how to handle that? Mary: We have to just keep avoiding it. I told him today that if he drove, he would be stopped by the cops and taken to jail because of his other incident. Also, the truck is only insured sitting where it’s at, not to drive. He will get over it. His anger is so threatening that I need another place to spend most of my time besides working in Littleton. I need to keep stuff at both places so I can be there if he really needs me. The issue is he’s angry at me not being in the house, but he can’t remember that he smokes everywhere and I’m in the barn and all his loose guns are locked up there as per requirement of having VA home food delivery and he walks in with a cigarette so we…..
2/22/2020 After that Ed started getting abusive whenever he drank. I refused to buy beer for him and he was angry. He didn’t like hard alcohol as much as beer so Keith thought that maybe just leave him some hard alcohol in case he got the fits. I thought about renting a house in Littleton but in the end decided not to because of COVID.
Ed needed a medical detox program but they wouldn’t take him back as and he would just walk out.
2/25/20 Mary to Keith: ….because he thinks beer is like water. Anyway, he’s had a clear head the last few days. Keith: That (no beer and clear head) sounds encouraging. I am going to try to stop over and see him either this afternoon or tomorrow. Mary: However, he’s been walking around naked. I hope he doesn’t scare off the meals on wheels.
3/15/20 11:46 AM Mary to Keith: Don’t know anybody that’s gotten sick with the virus do you? Ed has been his usual self. 7:26 PM Keith: No, I have not come across anybody with the virus yet. We have not curtailed our public activities at all. But we are just starting to think about it. Mary: ….truck. I don’t know what for he keeps going out there checking it and I think he fell down and scratched his leg. I don’t know how to keep him from doing that, he’s doing it barefoot. Keith: Wow that doesn’t look good. This virus thing has really screwed up my business. I did not get out of the house today. I do intend on being in your neighborhood tomorrow but the way things have been getting canceled and all I am not sure. If I am nearby, I will stop in and talk to him for a bit. Mary: I don’t think you should come and risk exposing him to that virus. He lost his keys again, so he’s been doing a lot of walking out to the truck. His leg is Okay it just has a place where it was poked and it looks like he was scratching it. This virus is serious. 7:45 AM Keith: Curious? What makes you think you would survive this? Mary: haven’t you watched the news they putting everyone over 60 at risk and any underlying health issue would lower your chances. I have a lot of allergies and asthma so the lungs would be risky and there aren’t any respiratory machines available. Keith: I haven’t watched the news? Are you kidding? I understand about Ed. I was asking about you. The only people dying seem to be elderly and have some sort of health issue. I certainly don’t consider you elderly and you don’t seem to let anything in life slow you down. Mary: LOL, I don’t think you realize how old I am. I am 12 years older than Ed. 8:53 AM Mary: Ed not only just knocked over the tv last night he must have fallen into it because it was on the floor and the screen is partially affected but he can still kind of see it and hear it. He’s always putting in the batteries backwards, so he never has a remote either. Keith: I’ve seen him in action with the remote. Not good. His feet look like hell! I assume he will continue to fall. Mary: I know he won’t get in the shower and he walks outside barefoot. I have used a tub to scrub his feet but don’t feel like it right now. Actually, Ed’s feet look like he might have diabetes but so far, the test came back negative for that. This is a good time for me to work on the yard and try to make some improvements around here. Keith: that certainly doesn’t sound “elderly”! Mary: Stay safe with the people you see. Stay in touch. The term elderly doesn’t mean feeble LOL it’s anybody over 60 which you are included too haha.
3/21/20 4:46 PM Keith: How is Ed doing? I assume there’s nothing exciting going on in his life. Mary: No same old same old. Keith: I’m feeling bad about not being able to stop. No change for us.
3/27/20 9:17 AM Mary: Have you seen this? Surgeon in Huston who’s in touch with physicians worldwide predicts COVID closure may- Aug….
3/28/20 Mary To brother Steve: Denver just announced stay at home orders till April 10. Liquor stores closed till then. Had to stock up for Ed today. Luckily, I found a drive through, so I don’t have to go in. Steve: Michigan did same today. Keeping everyone away from Ed. I am not visiting him either.
3/30/20 2:44 PM Mary to Keith: Today I saw that the meals on wheels delivery guy walked all the way in the house and put stuff in the refrigerator. Hope he wasn’t contagious. Scary times. We have a septic system problem I’m going to have to call for a clean-out. I’ve been tearing up the deck and back all day trying to get to the clean out. Do you happen to know somebody that’s good?
3/31/2020 1:28 PM Septic system back up. Mary: Well the Roto-Rooter clean-out worked thank goodness there were lots of roots in the line he said it seemed like it hadn’t been done a long time. Steve: I thought Ed had line replace around 2015 I’m thinking,
4/4/20 Mary to Steve: I think Ed needs cigarettes and I went to a drive-thru to get them, but they didn’t have his brand. Are cigs that different across-the—board? I didn’t feel comfortable going into the place.
4/9/20 5: 58 PM Keith: How are you and Ed doing? Mary: all is good. 4/12/20 12:56 PM Happy Easter/ Mary: Same to you such as it is LOL. Keith: Say hi to Ed from us.
4/16/20 Mary to Keith. Can’t get cigs for Ed with Covid. It is what it is. Isn’t it great motivation through not to drink and smoke. Keith: Well….I am not going that far yet! Mary: He doesn’t have a high value for health. Keith: I know.
4/19/20 12:46 PM Keith: Are you living the isolated dream today? Mary: Pretty much. I wish everybody would. Mary: Smoke goes straight to the lungs. I don’t want to take the risk of ending up in the hospital. Ed is always coughing with his emphysema so there is no way if he caught it that he could get something in the lungs and survive. I’m a little bit concerned about the people delivering food to him. Keith: I haven’t watched the news. Mary: I wish everybody would wear masks and then we wouldn’t have to be so isolated. 4/19/2020 1:08PM Mary: The natives are restless today…He’s looking for his keys again. Keith: The stay at home order may have been too hard for him to handle? He probably just wants to go downtown and protest!! Mary: Funny man. Keith: I try.
4/27/20 Mary: I know I thought my dentist was going back to work yesterday and then they moved it out to May 8th. 4/27;20 Keith: I’ll give you a call later in the week with some dental questions. Mary OK. 5/31 20 6: 54 PM Keith: Hey Mary, how are you doing? 4/27/20 8:28 :PM Keith: Still loving the isolated dream over here. I showed three homes today in clear Creek County. The counties down here are extending stay at home through May 8.
4/28/20 Keith: Hello Mary, call me on the life insurance. 9/28/20 Mary: Ed picked up his medical records at the VA. We tried to get his medical records from the hospital in December but they’re closed so he has to request them by mail.
5/2/20 Steve to Mary: Thanks for update Mary. Mary Yes, he still uses his phone after I found it in his chair. I think he’s healthier because no beer. Steve: Figured his improvement had to be related to something like that> Happy for the progress.
Mary to Keith: text… Ugh. I gave up on the idea that it would make a difference if you brought Ed over here to the barn to show him that I am living in the barn. I quit buying beer for Ed the day before you visited him. I see that he is doing much better with just hard liquor because he won’t drink very much of that. If he has both he gets very drunk because he thinks beer is like water. Anyway he’s had a ….
5/5/20 12:21 PM To Plumber: I’ve been taking the deck away to get to that gas line. I started putting a toilet in upstairs and I wondered mmmmm would you trade for fixing the plumbing that is broken under the house, and hooking up the main gas line under the house, and fixing a few vents and reinstalling a new toilet in the house for the vet? 5/21/20 Plumber: No? Shit what happened to him? Mary: I don’t know he started that for me, did a great job and was going to do more work and quit answering his phone and disappeared. I just wanted to know if he’s OK. Must have got Covid. Plumber: I don’t know he stopped answers.
5/7/20 Mary to Steve: Ed is going through one of his mean fazes. Telling me I don’t live here and to get off the property and stuff. I tried to explain to him that what’s going on in the world right now about covid and he doesn’t get it. I am paying 6 grand to have the edition built behind the barn to store some of his stuff in that he won’t get rid of they start tomorrow.
May 8/2020 Back to work and staying in the barn when home. After the Nov 30 2019 I had installed cameras around the property and in the house in case Ed fell again. Sometime during this time, A young man stopped by that evidently knew Ed from a long time ago. He said Ed had promised him the old corvette years ago and asked about Ed. I told him the truth, I was having lots of drinking issues with Ed and that we had traded the vet for broken plumbing under the house and fixing the gas line. I told him how deteriorated the vet was from sitting in the back yard and the dog Billy chewing the molding around the windshield (causing Ed to shoot him) and one door wouldn’t even shut. I didn’t know this guy but then a week later I saw some people walking up to the front of the house. It was his parents. I didn’t know anything about them and talked to Marlene on the porch as her husband Mike went inside to talk to Ed. They said they were old friends of his from the 90s and I did remember seeing them one time in about 2010. I didn’t hold back about my issues with Ed. Later Keith told me to call the police if they ever returned. Evidently Keith knew that in the 90s Ed had a meth business and quit before he got caught. Ed then admitted to me that he bought all his guns and equipment with that drug money and Mike and Marlene Bough were part of it. Ed was angry at me at the time for moving to the barn and trying to limit his alcohol. These people called APS after they left and then APS started showing up acting threatening. I couldn’t figure out what was happening. Doesn’t APS take care of old people? I just carried on working on the house and dealing with Ed as usual not knowing what to do since, for me, it had turned into a domestic abuse situation with Ed and we were fighting and when I was home, I was hiding in the barn.
5/13/20 To Plumber: I just went to the courthouse to see about the title to the vet and they aren’t open until June 1st. 5/13/20 7:49 PM 50% chance of rain tomorrow and it’s going to be cooler so maybe a good day to work so what do you think? If the door is left open Ed will walk into my place with a cigarette and I don’t want smoke in the barn so my door is locked. 5/20/20 10:18 AM I am going to run to Home Depot to get 2 more pieces of tile. If you get here before I get back, ask Tony to open the door. He is working drywalling upstairs in the barn. Thank you for doing everything you did. By the way, do you know what happened to your friend John the carpenter as he started the addition on the north side of the barn but disappeared and I paid him upfront. Now I have to pay another person to finish.
5/22/20 8:45 AM Mary To Another plumber: Hey this is Mary and you fixed something under the house last night and you pulled out the refrigerator but I can’t push it back in by myself if you’re over this way some time can you help me? No response.
5/22/20 Mary to Kirsten: …I would have to keep the dental lab business going so we have money and don’t lose any business but my goal would be to build the other business and sell the lab and train Sarah to take over. She’s the person that wants to buy the lab but I don’t want to train her until we don’t need it. With Covid happening, everything is up in the air.
5/24/20 Mary to Kirsten: This morning I was in misery because of my foot. I’m good now after I nap and staying off my feet. I don’t know if I cracked a toe recently or if I’ve got something going on at the base of one of my toes but it’s really bothering me and I’m going to have to call the doctor tomorrow. 5/24/20 9:08 PM Kirsten: Oh gosh, I hope it isn’t anything serious. Mary: I need this week to move out of the lab in Littleton. Hans is going to help me Thursday. Then I need a week to get a dumpster to clean up the back yard and reorganize the lab in the barn so I can work at home better and start deciding what to sell, what to give away, and what to throw away. I need to do a major clean-up at home. 5/24/4:22 PM Kirsten: Hi, I am doing the moving from office ….5/25/20 3:05 PM Mary: Two more loads and I’ll be out of that office.
5/25/20 9:46 AM Mary to Steve: I imagine you’re working this holiday. I’ll give you an update for where we are at. E’s been doing pretty good. I’m building an edition behind the barn to store extra stuff that Ed won’t get rid of since I’m trying to clear out the barn. We traded the Corvette for plumbing that was broken under the house and sold the motorcycle for 15 to pay taxes and …
5/31/20 Keith: Do you have a minute to chat? Mary: Yeah give me a call. Info Old Town Dental, tell them you want to make an appointment with Dr Maloy for an examine and an opinion and that you’re a friend of mind. Keith: Thank you.
6/1/20 5:24 PM Keith: I stopped and saw and talked to Ed today. He was looking good with the haircut and beard trim. He got right up but had nothing to say. Mary: Empty space up there.
6/29/20 2:15 PM Keith: Hey Mary, I just stopped to see Ed but he doesn’t seem like he wants to wake up today so I guess I will just go and come back another day.
8/1/2020 Because the APS people kept calling me Ed’s caretaker and threatening me, I hired a full time live in caretaker for Ed. He was still getting food from the home health people. APS stopped our joint checking account so there was no money. I was paying for everything trying to keep stuff together not really knowing what their agenda was. I was still thinking I could advocate for Ed so they would leave us alone. But no,….
Sept 4/2020 I finally got it across to Ed that the APS people had locked up his checking account and were going to try to take the house and finally he quit drinking cold turkey. I notified the VA, APS, and everyone, that he might need help, since he had stopped drinking on his own without medication. APPS people did nothing. Ed was finally taking this seriously not just thinking they were giving me a hard time. Now he realized the problem was also his. They would act really nice to him saying they were protecting him when they came to visit. They were also younger women. Now he knows the truth and that they were trying to make him a ward of the state so I took a video of him and he made a notarized statement.
After that for about 10 days, He seemed to be doing fine until Sept 15, 2020 when he had some sort of mental breakdown. I stopped at home, and he was threatening, didn’t know who I wa,s and was out of his head throwing stuff and coming at me. I hid in the barn, called police, and got a restraining order. The next morning, I relayed what had happened to the VA and they told me to bring him in to the ER if I could as he might have had a stroke. Ed seemed calm again, so I dropped him off at the VA telling them that APS has his money and were now in charge of him, and I was leaving for a trip.
On the trip I decided to extricate myself from the situation afraid of APS so when I got back I got a lawyer for Ed, re-sending my POA, and putting the house back into Ed’s name as I figured they might leave me alone if I did that and they could quit calling me his caretaker as I didn’t believe that common law wife meant caretaker and had never been that. I got home Sept. 23, 2020 just as they had released Ed on his own somehow and my daughter caught Anna the caretaker’s boyfriend getting ready to steal all Eds stuff from the garage. They had broken into the garage as I had left it locked when I went out of town. We fired Anna but when Ed came home, he let her back in. I had tried to get him a lawyer to defend himself form APS, coast me $1800 but then canceled him as he told me to do nothing.
From that time on, Ed couldn’t make new memories but I kept trying to advocate for him in some ways even though I was trying to get clear of the APS people by staying away from the property. Ed was mostly doing fine with Anna and I would come and go checking on them. I had lost my phone on another trip to AR and somehow someone was calling me about an eviction and was afraid APS was trying to evict me from the property. Turned out to be a wrong number. Although afraid of APS, I cared about Ed and kept trying to help him.
9/28/20 4:43 PM Mary to Keith: Ed picked up his medical records at the VA. We tried to get his med records from the hospital last December but they were closed so he has to request by mail. 9/29/20 7:13 AM Mary to Keith: Did you find out about that phone number if ….9/29/20 7:59 AM Keith: Not sure. I am still tracking some info I mentioned it to Diane Head and she said she was unaware of any evection process. For any evection there would need to be a public posting at the home. 3:14 PM Keith: I talked to the man at the number you gave….didn’t know you.
10/1/20 10:37 AM Mary to Keith: We always paid Eds phone bill with his debit card. APS has not arranged for his phone bill to be paid once they blocked his card or access to his money. They do not communicate so we didn’t even know if the utilities for him were getting paid until we went to the bank. He is still out of the phone that works. I am not there much nor is the home health nurse so if he had an emergency he would be out of luck He is getting patches today at the VA the home health nurse has taken him that I am paying for because I had to work today and usually are not there anymore. Diane Heas did bring a little bit more food than what we saw. Evidently, she bought some sliced meat and cheese and milk but I wasn’t aware of that. I thought she only gave him cheerios and bread and peanut butter that he doesn’t eat so I was wrong about that, but he is out of food again that he can eat except for when the home health nurse cooks up something for him. It’s pasta in different forms and meat things. They need to provide better. The home health nurse contacted Diane and it was clear to her that they had no intention of trying to get him to his appointment. I find them very neglectful. 11:01 AM Keith: Man oh man!!!!! I thought Diane told me that they paid for the phone? What was the appointment He was supposed to go to? Mary: This is his follow-up dr appointment. We tried his phone last night it still didn’t work as…This is abusive…his phone last night, It still didn’t work as it goes directly to financial services by not giving him a debit card or money for cigarettes they are forcing him against his will to quit smoking. They have his SSI money so why can’t they pay that? He is hopefully getting patches at the VA to help with cigarette withdrawal. He’s been having nicotine fits and it should be his choice whether he smokes or not, but I tried to talk him into the treatment for withdrawal and he agreed. He was so out of shape that he walked down to the corner to see if they would sell him some cigarettes not realizing he didn’t have any money with him or a mask on so they wouldn’t let him in. After that his back hurts so much last night he was groaning in agone and also miserable with nicotine fits according to the home health nurse.
10/1/20 Mary To Home health nurse: I need to be back to work before 1: 30. If you get a chance to talk to them they should be coordinating with AOS which is in charge of him for his care. Thanks for taking him, that’s above and beyond the call of duty. Are you scheduled for tomorrow or are you going to start with us on Sunday for the extra days I am paying you for? Mary: How did he end up with a pack of cigarettes: When stopped at home, he was smoking. 10/2/20 11:58 AM Nurse: I got them for him. Mary: He couldn’t remember how he got them so he’s out of them today again, so he just still has to do without. Didn’t the VA give him some patches?
10/3/20 9:37 AM To Nurse: Ed has a new appointment for Monday at 2 with his primary care doctor to look at his back and I am taking him to that so I hope I can get him some nicotine patches. I don’t feel right paying for cigarettes for him and it’s been great not having to walk into that cig smoke. They canceled the debit card that I paid for, that we signed up for him at Chase so he could buy his own cigarettes. Since they have not responded to pay for his phone, I am going to see about getting him a new account at Verizon so his phone works. He can pay me back later. 11:57 PM Well I’ve been trying to get Ed a phone I found out he can call 911 if it’s an emergency but he can’t talk to anybody else on his phone and it costs $90 to set it back up and I just can’t afford it right now. Also, for some reason they have to…unreadable. so I’m trying to find another avenue for a phone with him. It’s just that this one….
10/5/20 Home Health Nurse: He seems to be in a pretty good mood since he got off the phone. Mary: Good to hear. 12:34 PM Hi there, Ed just old me his Dr appt was canceled and changed to tomorrow. So I’m going to fry up some spuds and cook him some eggs. 10/7/20 Mary to H H N: Maybe you could contact Diane and say you missed her, and that Ed said he wanted some better food he didn’t know they were the ones in charge of that. Did they bring any food? They were just there and they’re around the corner so you could call them. Nurse: There is her reply….Thanks for letting me know. I[‘ll see what I can do, it won’t be today. Mary: He also eats salads but it has to be the kind of dressing he likes he likes spicy things. He needs the raw vegs to get better.
10/7/20 3:22 PM Mary to Keith: We are at the courthouse to get him a court appointed lawyer to fight APS. APS has done nothing for him. . 10/8/20 8:44 Am Mary: He has a lawyer the Lawyer’s name and number is on that brown desk. Gayle Young. I gave her all the VA records so she could fight for Ed.
10/8/20 Keith: …at Evergreen through early evening. Good to hear that it sounds like things are coming to some sort of conclusion. I will try to stop by tomorrow. Mary: Yeah. 10/9/20 7:39 AM Mary: I wondered if you could help with some idea of how Ed could have groceries delivered. I can also….they would take the house if anything happened to me. It would be better for it to go for Ed’s care if they decide on the 20th. I’m in the process of moving out of the house. I didn’t sleep there last night, and the cameras are no longer there. He is being pissy with me, probably because he feels a little rejection and he made a signed agreement with me of everything I spent on the property….
10/8/20 To Home Health Nurse: he promised Dr Chen he would do that poop test within 5 days so he might need to be reminded. I have moved out or in the process and he’s been real angry with me but he has an agreement with me that is notarized….
10/9/20 Mary to Keith: ….If you go by today would you check the safe nearest the garage front door. For some reason the nurse said it was open the other day with those machine guns inside and the nurse text me asking if she should report it. It has to be locked up or the Home health aide might be canceled. 9:12 AM Mary: I am going over to switch out Ed’s broken TV with another one so I’ll shut that safe maybe you could check it when you come over. 2:04 PM Mary: when I saw Ed this morning his memory wasn’t working too good. He couldn’t’ remember his truck wasn’t running and was back to that old problem it seems like he can’t remember anything since last December again. Would you consider taking Ed to his 9:00…I don’t know how to order cig delivered for Ed wouldn’t know how to order them but if there was someone who could order delivery for him this would solve his not driving problem to care for himself. I will also check with the neighbors two doors North that would be helpful.
10/11/20 Keith: ….court appointment on October 20. I do not totally understand what the proceedings are so I will call Diane Head tomorrow and try to get a better handle on this. Mary: No don’t call Diane Head, you have to call his lawyer. I’ll text you her name. Oh I have to find her name and number and it’s at Ed’s on the brown desk. I have to….Keith: ….tomorrow. I am at my office through about noon. Mary: Sure it’s right on his desk. I have to stop by tomorrow for the home health nurse so I’ll text it to you as soon as I get it. As far as Amy can gather it’s a court case for them to prove that Ed is not capable of managing his finance sand his life so they can keep a conservator. Keith: OK Text me the info or I can stop over at Eds. 6:20:PM Mary: Note from healthcare worker about APS not bringing food….Yes, that’s right it is not my place to feed him. I think it’s the right thing to do from time to time, but not to such a great extent. And I have been reporting it, which is also the right thing to do. I got two text mgs today re: Ed, the first one was from his buddy Keith ….
10/11/20 7:47 PM Mary to Keith: The problem is Ed doesn’t understand what a conservator is. He has to be told it’s someone that manages his money and if you say that he would say no. I hope you can help him by talking to his lawyer.
10/23/20 From Home H Nurse: …to see him. I was told by First Light that Diane Head was supposed to bring groceries over yesterday. And I brought a few things on Wednesday. But the only other person I know of is his buddy Keith. Well, and Gayle lawyer. And I think I have informed all that his phone was lost. That’s all I know. Oh Diane said they were going to give him a King Soopers gift Card.
About this time, Abba’s garage down at the corner fixed the truck for free for Ed and he got caught driving without a license and ins under APS care.
12/18/20 10:11 AM Mary to Keith: What is he driving for? Where is he going? And he broke the taillight on the truck. You need to call his lawyer and tell her that he has no insurance on the truck. Actually, Ed was great and nice and kind again. I am not afraid of him when he’s nice and I am going to advocate for him again because nobody is watching out for him. I will trim his beard so he looks decent. They are not bringing food again, there was nothing in the refrigerator but there were some frozen dinners. 11:50 AM Keith to Mary: I talked to Janice from Alba’s garage. I talked to his attorney who had me call the conservator and I also have talked to Linda at State Farm Insurance. The conservator is going to have to pay for the insurance. I just left Ed and he still cannot find his keys which hopefully means he won’t be driving the rest of this weekend and rock the boat even more. .10/18/20 Mary: . I don’t think his inability to make new memories problem is going to get fixed. Is his lawyer moving out the date… is it APS? I was giving him a beard trim and the guy from the state was there to ask him questions, but he left because I was there cutting his beard and said he would be back tomorrow. I know something has happened to his ability to make new memories. Why do they keep moving out the date?
12;/27/20 1: 27 PM Mary: I had to go pick up a furnace and found in the trash, in my space all my Christmas cards, and he has found his keys so I guess you know he’s driving again? He said they….Did his lawyer get the capacity assessment copy? I didn’t tell anybody that he is against him that he was driving. That would put his case in jeopardy…. 2:08 PM Keith: He hadn’t found his keys the last time I was there, and I don’t know where they are with the insurance. I talked to Diane Head, conservator, his attorney… 12/28/20 11.51 AM Keith: What furnace did you take out of the back? Is there still heat back there? Mary: My small porcelain furnace for the lab. Didn’t realize you might take that a different way. Mary: The home health nurse was not there, and I checked in his bedroom, and I don’t think they’ve been washing his clothes or cleaning up after him what do you think?
This is how Keith got in touch with Gayle Young who is the lawyer he made that will with.
2021
1/2/21 9:24 AM to Keith: Ed just called me from his new phone and he was very irate because he couldn’t find a couple of pans in the kitchen which I don[t have and I don’t know what he’s talking about….12:09 PM Mary To Keith: Ed is sending me threatening emails. What is going on? Should I block his number? Any contact with Ed is too upsetting for me right now he’s such chaos. I need peace and harmony in my life with APS threatening me. I will only contact….1/3/21 Mary to Keith: Is he drinking? He was very threatening and scary. I may need to get a restraining order on him. Doesn’t he understand that the court did all this, not me. He was angry about not being able to find those old heavy fry pans and last I saw they were on his stove. He really scares me. I’m thinking about calling the Lakewood Police to check on him. It’s … 1/3/21 Mary to Keith: He said he’s seeing a lawyer on Monday and I just hung up on him because he was so nasty. There’s a key outside and I’m telling him where it’s at and he has ammunition back there in the back shed so if he can get any of his safes open he would have guns to use besides the air rifle. He’s talking about he wants his air rifle in the back, and I’ll open that back area and leave it open for him but my stuff is in the main part of the barn and I’m not unlocking that… He text me, see you in court! Why is he so angry? I will call the police. I may have to block his number. You can let him have access to the barn since the key is outside there. Maybe that will calm him down but his ammo…
1/3/21 From Keith: I know. He’s figuring out what’s happening to him. He’s getting scared. I don’t think he can leave the house. You don’t need to call the police. You should not be involved with him at all right now. I will stop by afternoon and check on him. Mary: Okay, I won’t call the police. He really frightens me when he’s like this. Is he drinking? He was very threatening and scary. He sounds like he’s been drinking or he wats to drink. He’s very attached to those heavy metal old fry pans. Keith: He has not been drinking as far as I know. He’s figuring out what is happening.
Looking back, during this time I didn’t know that APS was stealing people’s homes. I think they were contemplating for quite a while whether Ed was a mark for them or not because before I dropped him off at the VA they would insinuate and infer and threaten me that I should be taking care of Ed. Nothing was clear. I didn’t know how corrupt the system was. It just didn’t seem possible. I could never understand it was just a feeling of predatory behavior. Nothing clear until they charged me. I couldn’t understand why they would charge me when I had given up my POA and the house to them. Why wouldn’t they just go away. Now I know they had to salience me.
1/3/21 To Keith: I will only have contact through you. 9:16 PM Mary: I hope that if you open the barn, it will help Ed see the possibilities and put him at ease, so he is not so riled up. Did you open the door for him and is….
1/7/21 To Keith ….for him and is he doing better? 11:45 AM You didn’t respond to me. I want to be sure he has access to the barn and found that key that I told you both where it was….
1/8/21 Mary to Keith: I don’t want him trying to track me down because he can’t get in the barn. 10:08 AM The meals on wheels have been calling me the last two days cuz he is not opening the door….
1/14/21 2;17 PM Mary to Keith: Can’t you just tow the truck somewhere so he doesn’t have access to it so he won’t drive it? ….and he has ammunition in the back there. I text where the key is to the barn. It’s outside in that little trinket that is on to of the electrical box. I trust he won’t throw my stuff outside. His gun is way in the back and that extra edition, and the ammo is under a seat. He was threatening me. Are you there with him? I don’t have any place to take my stuff so if he throws it out, he throws it out. Is he driving? Keith to Mary: I am working on a project at home. I expect to be tied up until noon. The truck has had a flat tire for the last week. Far as I know he has not been driving.
This was the last time Keith responded to any texts. I didn’t know he got together with the court appointed attorney that I had gotten for Ed and made a new will.
1/18/21 10:008 AM The meals on wheels have been calling me the last two days cuz they can’t get into the house to leave Ed’s food. No Response.
1/14/21 Mary to Keith: Can’t you just tow the truck somewhere so he doesn’t have access to so he won’t drive it? No Response.
3/31/22 Mary to Keith: I’m finding it hilarious how that I find out that Ed is the one that was mad at me so he complained to those people and that’s why they called APS. He must have been laughing all the time when they came to tell him they were coming to protect him from me and all this time I had been sticking up for him and getting him a lawyer and advocating for him not knowing he and Mike were the cause of the whole thing. I guess he got what he deserved and I’m thankful to be free. It’s all clear now. I was so naïve to think he was committed to me like I was to him. No Response
6/14/22 1:56 PM To Keith: Keith, I saw Ed about a week and a half ago and he said tat he’s trying to get a lawyer so that he isn’t a ward of the state. Can you make him understand? No Response
May 4/202 1:31 PM To Keith: (pic of card) this is my first attorney that works more as a mediator. If we can’t settle with him then I will need to hire the trial lawyer which I am fine with but I think that we all could talk and work this out. I just want what is rightfully mine as Ed’s common law wife which he stated in his first will and in the records of the VA even in 2020. At first, I was devastated and angry of course, but I worked on it emotionally and I’m fine with however it works out, even if we all lose the property to that mtg. The mtg is in default. One has to understand the intentions of the other person to really know the truth and at first I thought you all were against me trying to steal from me. But after working on I, I remembered how loving Ed’s family really is, and I thought you and I were friends working together to help Ed, so I told the lawyer that possibly the family was really trying to save the property for me in the long run. Of course, he laughed. You being a realtor, I know you have a plan. Is there any possibility we can all get together and work something out without the lawyers?
Sat, March 4: 2:14 PM Mary to Keith, if you don’t feel comfortable talking to me, here are two people that are understanding and not the lawyer that you could tell you side of the story to and they would help us work out our situation…..
Response: Wrong Number
The lawyers were supposed to talk but at the last-minute Keith back out and fired his lawyer and will not respond to me.